Failing happens, but being a failure is an identity you choose to accept or not. You get to decide. So why choose to be a failure when you can rewrite the narrative at any time?

Is Failing Even Bad?

Failing is a path to success. The more you fail, the closer you come to succeeding because you learn from each attempt. This is commonly expressed by successful people as motivation, with the idea that failing faster and more frequently is much better than not failing at all.

To fail more often, you need to take more action. This means that you need to recover from your failures quickly, too. The best way to recover from your failures rapidly is not to let them drag you down much in the first place. How? By managing your perspective.

It’s essential to sever the relationship between the outcomes of your actions and your self-worth. When your self-worth isn’t tied to your accomplishments, there is no way for failure to bring you down. There are a few obstacles here.

Why It’s Easy to Believe Your a Failure

First, there’s societal conditioning that ties worthiness with achievement.

Second, there’s fear of judgment, which piggybacks off that.

Third, your ego probably has a long list of things you don’t like about yourself or reasons to justify feeling unworthy, and those come out in force whenever something goes wrong.

Fortunately, these things only stand in your way if you believe all the mental chatter they produce. So rather than trying to fight those obstacles, you can just cut them off at the source by discounting those thought processes as bullshit. Because that’s what they are.

We could argue whether or not your self-worth is intrinsic to your very existence (which it is), but the truth is that it doesn’t matter. All that matters is whether you believe it is, and that’s a choice.

Your Choice: Worthy or Not?

If you choose to believe your worth is based on what you do, then you’ll be forever at the mercy of good and bad outcomes, poking and prodding you to either feel better or worse about yourself.

If you believe worthiness is your birthright, nothing can take it from you. This gives you the freedom to go about the trials and tribulations of life unencumbered by any tormenting thoughts of unworthiness. No amount of failing could ever make you a failure.

You can make this choice at any time. You can even try each one on and see the difference. The power is in your hands – as long as you believe it is.