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Adversity is a Gift, Don’t Play Victim Too Long
Many of the greatest lessons I have learned were realized after experiencing some degree of adversity. At the outset of each period of adversity I would feel sorry for myself, wonder how something like this could happen "to me," and ruminate on how shitty the...
Laugh, Yell, or Cry: Your Choice
Over the past year I have noticed that my mood plays a massive role in how my day will go. This may seem like an obvious statement, but what is the exact mechanism that translates my mood into a good day instead of a bad one? Is it possible, through awareness and...
Get Out of Your Way
I have been blocking myself from launching this site. Full of self doubt and unfounded fears and anxieties. Will it be good enough? Will people see any value in this? Will I be rejected? By holding on to these fears I have maintained the biggest obstacle in my path,...
How To Focus On Being Yourself
Now that we understand the importance of focusing on being ourselves (read Don’t Just Be Yourself, Make It Your Focus), how can we achieve and maintain that focus throughout our daily life? Below I have written some ideas that you can adapt and change to suit...
Don’t Just Be Yourself, Make It Your Focus
"Just be yourself." We have all heard this phrase countless times, it is a seemingly simple idea yet somehow it feels difficult to put into practice and maintain. When we focus primarily on other people, their opinions, and how they do things, we lose sight of who we...
Efficiency is our Responsibility
Each and every one of us has a substantial impact on the world around us. The most quantifiable portion of our impact is our consumption. We consume constantly, the most immediate positive effect we can have on the environment comes from changing how and what we...
Change the World by Changing Yourself
Improving the world seems like a daunting task. The challenges that our global society is faced with are overwhelming: climate change, poverty, terrorism, international conflict, racism, intolerance of diversity, starvation… these are highly nuanced and pervasive issues. It is easy to throw our hands up in apathy and convince ourselves that there is nothing we can do…
Try On Someone Else’s Perspective
In the USA we are reaching what I call peak polarization. Our society is divided along every possible point of tension. I hear and see people attacking each other because they are either physically or mentally different; red and blue, black and white, rich and poor, this and that – it is as if we look for excuses to lash out at each other rather than searching for common ground…
Focus on the Journey, Not the Destination
In western culture, we often focus on the attainment of things as a result of viewing success in material terms. I find myself getting caught up thinking about what I want to have, what I want to do, and where I want to go. This is a tendency to focus on the destination instead of the journey, but how should we get to that destination without…
Money Buys Pleasure, Not Happiness
We are often told that money cannot buy happiness, but there is sometimes a gap in understanding why. Having a lot of money certainly provides freedom, and you can buy things that you imagine would make you happy, but in reality these things just bring pleasure.
Ben Fairbrother
Emotional Health Coach
I help others master their emotions and build better relationships with self-love.
Adversity is a Gift, Don’t Play Victim Too Long
Many of the greatest lessons I have learned were realized after experiencing some degree of adversity. At the outset of each period of adversity I would feel sorry for myself, wonder how something like this could happen "to me," and ruminate on how shitty the...
Laugh, Yell, or Cry: Your Choice
Over the past year I have noticed that my mood plays a massive role in how my day will go. This may seem like an obvious statement, but what is the exact mechanism that translates my mood into a good day instead of a bad one? Is it possible, through awareness and...
Get Out of Your Way
I have been blocking myself from launching this site. Full of self doubt and unfounded fears and anxieties. Will it be good enough? Will people see any value in this? Will I be rejected? By holding on to these fears I have maintained the biggest obstacle in my path,...
How To Focus On Being Yourself
Now that we understand the importance of focusing on being ourselves (read Don’t Just Be Yourself, Make It Your Focus), how can we achieve and maintain that focus throughout our daily life? Below I have written some ideas that you can adapt and change to suit...
Don’t Just Be Yourself, Make It Your Focus
"Just be yourself." We have all heard this phrase countless times, it is a seemingly simple idea yet somehow it feels difficult to put into practice and maintain. When we focus primarily on other people, their opinions, and how they do things, we lose sight of who we...
Efficiency is our Responsibility
Each and every one of us has a substantial impact on the world around us. The most quantifiable portion of our impact is our consumption. We consume constantly, the most immediate positive effect we can have on the environment comes from changing how and what we...
Change the World by Changing Yourself
Improving the world seems like a daunting task. The challenges that our global society is faced with are overwhelming: climate change, poverty, terrorism, international conflict, racism, intolerance of diversity, starvation… these are highly nuanced and pervasive issues. It is easy to throw our hands up in apathy and convince ourselves that there is nothing we can do…
Try On Someone Else’s Perspective
In the USA we are reaching what I call peak polarization. Our society is divided along every possible point of tension. I hear and see people attacking each other because they are either physically or mentally different; red and blue, black and white, rich and poor, this and that – it is as if we look for excuses to lash out at each other rather than searching for common ground…
Focus on the Journey, Not the Destination
In western culture, we often focus on the attainment of things as a result of viewing success in material terms. I find myself getting caught up thinking about what I want to have, what I want to do, and where I want to go. This is a tendency to focus on the destination instead of the journey, but how should we get to that destination without…
Money Buys Pleasure, Not Happiness
We are often told that money cannot buy happiness, but there is sometimes a gap in understanding why. Having a lot of money certainly provides freedom, and you can buy things that you imagine would make you happy, but in reality these things just bring pleasure.
Ben Fairbrother
Health Coach
I’ll help you take control of your emotional, mental, and physical health once and for all.